Life Of No Ordinary Rose...

....a new beginning starts at the beginning of a new year, so with a new year starting you have a chance to start fresh..... For some reason I feel like I am ending this year like I ended last year, and that is another love lost.... So on Friday while I attend the wedding of a friend of mine at the stroke of midnight I plan to start anew, I have to, I need to, it is not an option.... I know how cliche it is to say that with the new year to start new but it is much easier when you have a memorable starting point... There is so much that I plan to make changes to in 2011 inside and out. What are your plans for the new year?

*singing* ....."I'm talking square biz to ya baby square square biz..." It is sad to say that the "Ivory Queen of Soul" Teena Marie passed away at the age of 54 last night. They say she died in her sleep and the cause has not been confirmed. I am sure that most of you probably know her because of Rick James but she had a phenomenal voice.... It is always sad to see someone pass but instead of sulking just send prayers to their loved ones :) Sit back and enjoy the smooth sounds of Ms Teena Marie's voice =)

I just got finished watching the 2010 film Dear John for the first time and I was pretty much blown away by the story line.... If you have seen The Notebook and enjoyed it then you will love this story just the same. I am know I am late in watching this movie lol so don't judge me... The love story in this movie is one to be desired and the ending was not one that I expected... I have told you guys this before but I am very much so a hopeless romantic and stories like that make me believe in love.... HOWEVER.... That feeling placed into my life does not stick for very long... Ever have someone tell you that if you tend to keep attracting the same type of people into your life then it is something about you that you may need to find and change... Just a quick food for thought...

Soooo I turned 25 back in June and since then things have been rapidly changing for me... It feels like I turned 30 seriously lol All, ok well not all but MAJORITY of my friends are getting married, creating families, and moving on to bigger and better things and I am feeling like I need to step it up a notch or something, like I am lagging behind in this becoming and adult process.... Am I over analyzing the situation? Am I trying to grow up to fast? I just feel like there are certain points in your life where you feel like you should be at a certain point or should have certain things. I don't know if this is something that I picked up from the media and society but it just feels in grained in me.... *shrugs* All I can do is take everything day by day.... I am making moves towards bettering my future but I think my problem is that I am too eager to get to the future and not enjoying the "now" as much as I should.... One of my desires in life is to get married and to cre

Merry Christmas to you all.... This year has been one that has been VERY eventful but I have learned alot... Now I may not get any gifts for Christmas but none of that matters I am very blessed to have everything that I have in my life from material possessions to my family and friends.... Do not forget to send praises up to God for the birth of Jesus.... Because unless you forgot *singing* Jesus is the reason for the season yea, oh yes he is.... Be good to one another =)

..."Now you can wait your whole life wondering when it's gonna come or where it's been. You may have got your heart broken a few times in the past never last strong as it used to. Don't feel as good as it used to (before) and all the things you used to say, things you used to do, went right out the door. Oh no more, will you be the one that's what you tell everyone around you. But you know they've heard it all before, what more can you say when love won't let you, walk away and you can't help who you love. And you find yourself giving it away when you think you're in love..." -Keyshia Cole ~It is such a strange feeling when you are falling for someone but a good feeling none the less.... ~It is a different feeling when making someone else happy makes you feel good, you know someone other then friends or family ~Something about finding a significant other that makes people do things they have done before :) I hope that I get to that point...

One of my favorite rappers is Mr. Loso himself... I have told yall time and time again I listen to music for substance not for the new trend or a banging beat... A banging beat is just a plus when the rhymes are creative, well put together, and full of metaphors.... If you haven't heard anything from Loso you need too his versus are dope.... Now typically I would provide you with some examples but this time I want you to go listen on your own....

"He pressing me like button downs on a Friday night...." Ok yall, I have a confession...I believe that Ms Nicki Minaj is growing on me lol I always liked her versus as a featured artists on tracks but now her singles are growing on me too. I cant hate on her lyrically she spits some cool metaphors. I guess what initially turn me off from her was her mannerism and voice lol I didnt quite understand it but it all comes with the persona I assume. Low key I am looking foward to new things from her...

"I want your ugly, I want your disease. I want your everything As long as it’s free I want your love" Its funny how you begin to fall for someone.... and when things really begin to get deep between you all and sometimes it gets to a point to where they almost can do no wrong.... Thats what I like to call a bad romance... "Can I save you from you cause you know there's something missing....starting to feel like the wrong thing to do...." Jamie Foxx and Drake hit home with the track "Fall For Your Type" most people whether they want to admit it or not fall for the same type of people and then you end up in that bad romance again... I honestly have no advice on this topic because this is something that I am trying to work through myself... The new boo is different then those in the past very patient yet I am difficulty treating him different, the way he should be treated because of my past... We shall see what happens... *fingers crossed*

Have yall heard this man? J. Cole is DOPE....Just sayin' "Baby you summertime fine. I let you get on top i'll be the underline I'm trying to get beside you like the number 9 dime you fine as hell. I guess I met you for a reason but only time can tell but well...." Two of my favorite songs by him is "In the Morning" and "Light Please" "So I tried to show her about the world and about just who we really are and where we coming and how we still have to go really far. Like baby look at how we live broke on the boulevard but all she ever want me to do is unhook her bra...." If yall have not checked him out then you need too. I listen to music for substance and I get that from his lyrics. Oh and ladies he is easy on the eyes as well.... lol Hey I am just being honest...

*singing* "Last night I cried, tossed and turned, woke up with dry eyes, my mind is racing, feet are pacing Lord help me. Please tell me what have I gotten into...I'm on an emotional roller coaster...." Today was going well then I got a text that almost crushed me but I wont let it... I have been through way TOO much to allow what others "THINK" they know about me to effect me...I am not perfect but I try to do right by everyone but sometimes at the end of the day it does nothing for me. I still get rocks thrown at me. I have faith that God hasn't left my side but I do get weary and bogged down because I try to do right, to be positive, to be a good person and yet I still hurt. I love me, I love who I have become, and I love the struggle I went to get there. And although I wish I could change people I can not. You can not judge a book by its cover nor believe all of what you hear because "word of mouth" can get so jumbled and messed up its hardl

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....the Season Is all your shopping done? Got all your gifts, food, decorations? I wish my family was more like that. I wish my family got together at Holidays :( I feel like my nieces and nephews are missing out on how great the holidays can be. At how close family can actually be.... I want to decorate the tree, bake cookies, cook dinner, open presents together...I wish my family was like that... Instead most of us just pick up the holiday hours and work instead.... When I have kids of my own I plan to do the EXACT opposite. And if I had the money I would do all of the above for my nieces and nephews, however I do what I can do for them... *shrugs* I can only hope that things will get better..... But on a much happier note I hope that you all have a WONDERFUL Christmas and a very Happy New Year!!

Sorry my faithful readers, I have not been updating like I should have and I apologize. This semester has been a rough one, but alas I have made it through and with VERY good grades might I add. :) Besides that Shoed-In is doing very well with that. I am truly enjoying writing for something so wonderful and on the "up and up". Love life: Hhhhmm lets just say, I have one now and I am happy so we shall see what happens with that lol Work is work ready to start my career but I must be patient.... I have one more graduate exam I need to take and I need to start getting all my paperwork ready to apply for Student-Teaching because that is due next month.... Hhhhhmmmm what else? OH!!! Cheer is going good as well. LSHS Varsity placed 3rd in there Division at State. Big shout out to that... Avila Cheer has had a successful Pancake Breakfast on Dec. 4th and a successful Auction this past Saturday December 11th... We have an upcoming performance on Wed. Dec 15th. Next step we will be c

....a good woman or a good man? By whose standards do we say someone is good or bad? Don't people usually look for different things in people to make them happy? Isn't everyone different? Someone today said that women need to look at themselves and what is considered to be a good woman before they start shouting about how they are a good woman.... But here is my dilemma. What about men? Do they NOT have to look at themselves before they call themselves a good man as well? A friend of mine said that it is much harder for men to find a good woman than it is for a woman to find a good man and I beg to differ. I think both are equal. Society today is much different for my generation then it had been in the past therefor making it hard for BOTH sexes to find "good" mates that they are compatible with. To me one is NOT greater than the other.

The more I write for this site the more I fall in love... I mean I have always been in love with shoes but this site has given me more and more insight into the fashion world and helping me to find out more things about myself that I had not none before.... You never know what you can learn about yourself until you start doing things that you enjoy to do.... Please check out the website on a daily basis for fashion updates.... Fashion is a lifestyle. Live it. Love it. Be it. =)

....of a Church Home.... It is a LONG time since I have had a consistent place that I call my Church Home.... I truly believe that some of the bad luck that I have been encountering is because I have lost the devotion that I use to have for my religion to other things... So I plan to begin a new search of looking for a new "home" soon so that my life can balance itself out because it is something that I need. Regardless of the fact I am happy and very blessed but I can just imagine how much happier I could be if I gave God that much more of my attention and devotion.... I shall keep you all updated on this process....

Do at Christmas? Well....I have been single during the Christmas season for the past oh I don't know at least 10 years lol and yes I am only 25. So let me tell you what this lonely person does at Christmas... I either work or chill with my nieces and nephews lol It would be nice to have a "boo" to snuggle up with or other homes to go to on Christmas day but that doesn't happen for me. I am not complaining at all because I believe that one day my time will come. However until then I will keep myself occupied with other things during the holiday season. Just because you are single it doesn't mean that you have to sad and depressed all the time geesh.... Enjoy the alone time because when you do decide to be in a relationship that time may be cut a little short... Just sayin' So just because you are lonely during Christmas time doesn't mean you have to sulk. Be happy, enjoy family, and have fun... :)

The holidays are upon us and as Thanksgiving just passed we have a lot to be thankful for.... The holidays should not be the only time where you should show how grateful you are, you should be grateful and thankful everyday that you wake up and take a breath... It is best to remember that all the things that you have worked so hard for can be taken away in the blink of an eye. So tell people you love them as much as you can, send praises up to God, and live the life you have to the fullest. Do what you want to do within moral and reason.... Christmas is the next holiday and a lot of times we get caught up in the material gifts and cherish the people around you especially those who support you and love you for you.... Remember: *singing* Jesus is the reason for the season, Yea oh yes he is.....

How do you approach the opposite sex? Is it a subtle flirt? Or just bold and upfront? Do you stare a little bit longer then normal? I am more of a "subtle flirter" lol ;) I like to stay a little longer, slide a quick smile, maybe perhaps on a good even wink once.... I have yet to learn the art of just walking up to a man and coming on to him. Now lets be real lol when I have had a drink or two it is a little bit easier for me to hit on a man or at least approach them and spark up a conversation... For those men and women who are bold with it, I admire you cause even if you get turned down at least you know that you tried so *fist pump* to that....

I recently went to the movies to see the Tyler Perry rendition of "For Colored Girls" and I must say that I was impressed with the movie. The monologues were deep, emotional and poetic. My only dilemma is that so many young black girls that saw Tyler Perry's name and assumed Madea. They were disappointed in the movie, angry and making statements that they had wasted their money on this "sh*t" as they put it. This movie was something that I thought that a lot of young black girls should see. They can only learn from the movie if they were to go in with an open mind. It upsets me that so many of our young girls are so ignorant, uneducated and not ready to experience different forms of entertainment. Our young women need our help these days. Our youth is our future, if we do not help guide them in the right direction then who will? I want people to know and understand that Tyler Perry is NOT the originator of "For Colored Girls". The Author is Ntozake S

Is there a limit to your love? Is there only so much you can take? Do you have a breaking point? Most say there is no limit to their loving but I think there has to be something that you will put your foot down for and just say no.... I have only truly loved one person and initially I probably would have game him the world and even know still with a few feelings residing within me still I probably would still do somethings for him because I love him BUT I do know my love would definitely have a limit But I guess with TRUE there is no limit and maybe I have yet to find that.... We shall see...

Dreams, we all have them. Some of our dreams are way more vivid and real then we want them to be. I have been dreaming about my ex recently and I wish I would stop. I am sure that it is coming from old buried feelings that I once had but there probably wont be another "us" and IF it is it wont be for a LONG time I'm just saying.... Then there are the dreams that I do want to become reality. The dreams of my success, the dreams of me becoming what I have set out to be... I am a day dreamer which can be good and bad. Sometimes it takes away from em being able to focus on the more important things in fine so I have catch myself to snap out of it.... So every time I lay my head down to rest I hope that my gets all of its wondering out in my dreams so I can focus while I am awake.... What I am trying to say is that I want my fantasies, my hidden thoughts, my desires to catch my while I'm sleeping. There is too much I need to get done while I am awake...

Ok....here is the deal initially I was NOT a fan of Raheem Devaughn, I thought a few tracks were cool but never looked to far into his music. BUT let me tell you how wrong I was. I got the chance to see him in concert Oct 23rd along with Tank and baby when I tell you the man can out on a show....he puts it DOWN okay *in my ghetto voice* lol Seriously, he is not the type of guy that right off the bat I would say is a sex symbol but his show changed my min thoroughly.... Songs like, "B.O.B" "Microphone" "Customer" "Woman" "Mr. Right" " Mo' Better" " I Don't Care" "Bulletproof" and I could go on and on and easily timeless classics... He is like a modern day Marvin Gaye. He adores the woman in her entirety and appreciates everything from her curves to her drive for life.... Example: From "Woman" I appreciate your glow (Thank you) And when you get angry with us the way that you let us know (tha

Ok so I am going to give my opinion on whether or not men and women can JUST be friends....Here goes nothing It is POSSIBLE, however some of the best and most successful relationships blossom from friendships. When you hang around someone constantly and talk to them constantly you begin to grow feelings for that person.... And that's okay. But in most cases sexual tension between you all will arise... I have a male best friend but the way we got to that point was a LONG road lol we actually started out backwards we tried dated and then realized that we are better as friends.....Now that we got the tension out of the way now we can truly just be friends and now we can talk about everything Alot of the male-female friendships I know there is sexual tension unless one of the parties is homosexual.... Now don't take what I am saying the wrong way. I am in NO way saying that men and women can not be friends with out being intimate. People can control themselves and although the te

Ask anyone and they will tell you that communication is KEY to any successful relationship whether it is friendly, business, or personal.... If this is the case then why have we allowed technology to take over the most important way to communicate which is FACE TO FACE.... A text, call, email, BBM, instant message, skyping, tweeting, blogging, facebook status, DM or any other form of social networking tool can provide you with the true and raw emotion that you receive from a face to face conversation. Phone calls and skype is probably the closest you will get to a face to face conversation BUT text messages has even taken away from that... Now-a-days you have more and more people who are afraid to talk to you in person but not afraid to talk to you all day long in a chat room lol Mind boggling right? It is to me. I miss the days where I would just sit on the phone with my "boo" all night and falling asleep on him because we have been on the phone for so long OR Just being cu

HOT TOPIC ALERT!!!!! Women being the bread winner.....hhhhmmmm what do I think?! Well here goes nothing: I think it depends on the couple....If the man wants to stay home and take care of the kids why not let him? I mean seriously women always complain about men not being fathers to their children even when they are married to the man saying "he is always at work, he doesn't even know what his kids are in to." Well you try and be the bread winner and see how difficult of a job it may or may not be. I am old school, straight up traditional so I plan for who ever I marry to be prepared for me to be on maternity leave lol I'm just saying if that couple is ok with the roles being reversed then what is it to you? Does the way they run their household effect you? And if it does please tell me how so I can know lol If they are happy let them be happy...Its not my business to judge... That is all

....Ever just felt like crying? Yea... Well did you cry? No.... Why not? You should have.... Every now and again when life seems to be a bit much a good cry is a good thing... My mom gets so frustrated with me when I cry but like I told her crying helps me to release my anger. The way she releases her anger is in a much more aggressive manner and that is just not one of my mannerisms.... She sees it as a sign of weakness, BUT I see it as a sign of strength.... How many people are afraid to cry in front of others?! ALOT!!! I know right?! Why? Because they feel like someone is judging them or they feel vulnerable.... But see crying doesn't always mean you are letting your guard down sometimes those tears are building a wall. A fortress that will fan away any other pain that may come your way.... See there is two sides to every story so don't just assume because someone is crying that they must be weak because I tell you what: I am one of the strongest person out in this world. I

So I have been jamming to "Speechless" by Ciara and I must say this song is pretty amazing to me...See I listen to the words of songs and not just the beat... And if you have ever truly liked some one and you just felt like there just wasn't enough time in the day to spend with that person then you will like this song too. She says I just need an extra hour on the clock an extra month on the year, an extra holiday just to kiss you all over your face...I know that I have felt like that... Hey infatuation can be a b*tch when it wants to be lol.... What feels even better is when the feeling is mutual when that person feels EXACTLY how you feel... Now that WILL have you "Speechless".... "Im thankful for all the days that you had my back, coulda been anywhere but look where you at?"

...I dropped the ball in Sept and only posted 9 times so I am trying to make up for that... So tonight I am allowing my mind to wander in to all kind of places and letting those thought flow through my fingertips and on to this keyboard.... You ever just sit back and think about life... Ever think about the what ifs? Ever wonder why somethings just seem so hard to achieve? I'm a dreamer....my mind is always in the clouds...sometimes I have trouble focusing on one thing or another because I typically have so much on my mind so I try to get as much off my chest as possible...it can hard sometimes though, I wont lie lol Any who if there is anything that you would like to have me "rant" about just let me know.... Love ya...

Ever meet that one person who no matter what you can never truly stay mad at them?! Lol well I think I have met my match. For as long as I have known this person I have not been able to truly stay mad at them.... They say something that makes me laugh and helps me to calmly talk about whatever is bugging us instead of me flying off the handle and yelling for no reason.... Its crazy the many ways that people can effect you and your mannerisms... I'm not sure if this is a good or bad thing the way I am feeling but it is definitely got me feeling some kind of way. No one knows what the future holds for them but I am trying to just enjoy the moments in which I am given and I thank God for them all... You know the best part about not being able to stay mad at this person is that it is healthier for me....lol Like seriously...see it takes so much energy to be angry and being happy is like second nature so why not just embrace the happiness when it takes over... Don't fight it...Enjo

I asked my Twitter and Facebook friends the other day what they thought about cheaters and if they thought they could change. Here are some of the responses I received: Q:How many of you believe once a cheater always a cheater? Or can people change? A: *It depends on the person *Its a mentality...so people can change IF and WHEN they feel the need to *Once a cheater still a cheater now you are a smarter cheater *People can change if and when they want *I think people can change, just give that person a chance to prove him or herself Q:Men:If you cheat on one girls will you cheat on the next?! A: *Bullsh*t *That's not true *I say No! But I do think if you cheat on your girl once you'll do it again *I think it depends on the man and the woman....some women make a man want to cheat the same way some men make women cheat. A man can and will settle down when and if they ever find that woman to make them want to Q: Do you judge people by their past or provide them with a clean slate?

..."All I see are fireworks, every night its fireworks... you coulda been the one but it wasn't that serious their was smoke in the air before now its me clearing it that felt good, all and all I learned a lesson from it though you never see it coming you just get to see it go yeah, I shoulda looked up in the sky at first now I can see it in her eyes Fireworks!" When you are really into someone sometimes all you see is fireworks...all you see is the good and cant even fathom the bad but don't be mistaken even the successful relationships have bad moments but they fight and work hard to make that bad, good again... Relationships are hard work and you need to communicate freely with your significant other or it will fail every time... Fireworks are good...that means there is a spark between you all and its like a green light to proceed and see where the relationship can go.... And sometimes the fireworks blinds you to the other person's true feelings. So be careful

Shattered dreams can and will happen....but here is the deal: How much will you allow that to hold you back? How much will take before you take a stand? For me the concept of love has been something like a shattered dream. My upbringing was not the most conventional one and for that I have always longed for love and sometimes I looked in the wrong places... I never and still don't get the love that I desire from my family. I am what my friends call a hopeless romantic... BUT on the flip side I try not to just settle. I refuse to call every man I go on a date with my boyfriend. I am not dependent lol. I want who I call my boyfriend to be the one who gives me butterflies...the one who every time we kiss I get weak. The one who when I look into his eyes I can look past all his flaws.... And that is why I am single. Now how is this my shattered dream you say? Well, Love has yet to love me back the way that I would like for it too... So until further notice I am on a "Love Hiatus

....We never did it... Eh, not me cause I am glad that we did. In fact I learned from it.... What is it that I am talking about? Does it really matter? See everything in life is something you can learn and grow from. So why wish that it never happened? Then that would be one last thing that you got to experience and one less thing that you had the opportunity to grow from... I'm just saying...take life by the horns and enjoy it good and bad... Without the bad would we know what the good felt like? Without the bad would we cherish the good the same? Without the good would we know that some of the bad ain't so bad after all?! Think about it and get back to me... *Deuces*

....This is what I am currently experiencing... It is time for me to just realize what I didn't want to realize before and move on... I told yall this before my motto is "Life Happens" and it does so take what you can from it learn and keep pushing... As much as love as I have for him the feelings may not be mutual and until I can come first then there is NO need for me to be around Life is funny because the 3 men that I openly gave my heart to played me for a fool.....and when I say I was in love with them that's exactly what it was. However that love was NOT returned and each have apologized about it and we are on speaking terms but here is the deal: They are all in happy relationships and guess who is still "Single Sally"?! lol Yep! You guessed it.... ME!!! I'm the lonely old hag who cant get anyone to love me in return....pretty sad and no I am NOT embarrassed to share this with you all because its life and I am living it and learning from it... BUT

If you find someone that can find the best in you when everyone sees the worst in you then that is someone you need to keep around you... Nothing but positive vibes I promise God sees the best in us even when it feels like no one sees the good in us. here is ALWAYS someone looking at the best in you even if you don't see it. It does exist. Just have faith that as long as you are doing everything that you need to be doing that is "right" then everything else will just fall into place as it should.... When you feel like you have hit a brick wall and can not go any further, when you feel like nothing you do is right think about all the people who do look up to you, think about those who do see the best in you And lastly think about those who have faith in you.... Keep pushing :)

I have been away for a little while and I apologize for that... So here goes nothing... I have been going through a lot and now I need to get my thoughts out in my version of "Pen and Paper.." I looked up a past love on Facebook recently and I am not sure that was the best move for me. I thought I was over him, over it but I was SADLY mistaken... As soon as the door was open those feelings came rushing back like nothing had ever happened. And then I got slapped in the face with some news I'm not sure I wanted to hear because to be quite honest I got a little jealous and really had no reason to. Sad huh? And as I sit here and write you "Last Time" by Trey Songz comes on my play list and makes me think of this person....*chuckles inside* this whole situation is just a strange one but as I sit here and wonder if this 3rd encounter of us coming back into each others lives is a sign of something more I cant help but to think we are just meant to be friends. You see h

Sooooooo in this hectic life I like to call my own I have met a guy who could possibly put me in my place and get me to settle down lol He is like a mystery and I think I like it... He doesn't like to answer my questions via text he prefers face to face so he can "show" me as he so eloquently states it lol... We shall see where this goes. I wont put much out there that is just a snippet... I saw my friend Sarah get married on Sept 12th and she looked absolutely gorgeous. I am so happy for her and her husband I am sure they will be together for awhile. They are those people that when you meet them you can see that they were made for each other. Yea....black love at its finest.... This Saturday I have yet another wedding to go to. I have see my homie Clinton get married. I wouldn't miss it for the world. He is a good friend. I also have a baby shower to go to. It is for a friend of mine whom I use to cheer with back at Avila. She is so excited about the bundle of joy an

....for a minute, I'd like to know your name.... Communication is key to any successful relationship, intimate or not... Holding things in, lying, miscommunication , etc will always lead to problems with people whether its your mate, your friend, your co-worker or fellow student.... Why when something is bothering you do you hold it in until so much has built up that you just explode? That just makes everything worse then what it has to be and that's real.... You can easily fix one problem at a time, but do you know how hard it is to fix multiple problems? VERY hard and dang near impossible.... How can someone fix something that they do not know is broken? If you don't tell them that something that they are doing is bothering you how can they be a friend and fix it? They cant. They are not mind readers.... We have a tendency to assume that people know that something is bothering you when in reality they don't ..... OPEN YOUR MOUTH AND SAY SOMETHING!!!! At least if you

...."Boys I do adore...put ya number on this paper cause I would love to date ya holla at ya when I come off tour".... Man so recently I have had some experiences recently with some men that have given me a little insight on the "Man's World".... Most women dream of the day that they get married to their "Knight in Shining Armor..." but what we learn later is that it takes alot of time, effort, and trial & error... Some, well most women have to date again and again and test the waters before they find the one they will end up with the rest of their lives they are typically, hurt or sometimes the relationship just does not work out the way they wanted it too... Nonetheless it is a learning experience that we can and should all learn from... With the bad comes the good and with the good comes the bad so when you truly find that one person who you can accept flaws and all so with that you have to want to be with that person and fight for it even when

Sometimes we need to find a way for us to release our stresses and just forget about all the things that get us down... And for me that is Retail Therapy....Shopping that is lol Like other women I LOVE to shop BUT unlike other women I don't like spending alot of time at the mall or in crowded boutiques and shops... I typically know what I want and try and find it and if I cant find it then that means I don't need it in my eyes..... I LOVE SHOES!!! I love heels, tennis shoes, flats, sandals, wedges, flip flops, boots, etc... I love them all, every color and style... So usually when I go thru my retail therapy phase I typically look for shoes to add to my collection.... Retail therapy helps me to clear my mind and forget about all the things that bother me... Find away to relieve your stress...you will feel better later :)

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...It has to be one of the hardest things to deal with BUT difficult isn't impossible... I still have trouble dealing with feelings from the death of my father and other loved ones but you got to know that they would want the best for you and would not want you sulking over something that was out of your control.... Death is never easy and sometimes the pain never fully goes away but people build mechanisms on how to deal with it so that it doesn't effect their every day life... Some people celebrate the life of that person instead of looking at it as they will never see them again... They see it as a way to make sure that they person is looked at in a positive way, they their life was not a waste and that it was lived to the fullest... Whenever I think of my father yes a tear comes to my eye but I remind myself that I was my Daddy's ONLY little girl and that he only wanted me to be happy and although I cry because I miss him I know that he is always right beside me.... RIP

..............There is a SUCH thing as doing too much when it comes to your children.... It is ok to protect your children from the dangers of the world but you have to allow them to learn from the world at some point.... If NOT then you will have a child who is unable to function in the real world because they are so dependent on their parents that they cant even make a single decision on their own... As an adult we have to be function in society, make mistakes, and live their own lives or they will forever be picked on because they are sheltered from the world they have no idea how to even respond to what life has thrown or will throw at them... Its all about being well-rounded so teach and allow your children to do just that.... Remember let them live, laugh and love...they wont be able to with you hanging on to their coat tail.... You can not no matter how much you try keep them from experiencing any pain at all.... A good parent knows that children need to be balanced in order to

The new thing to communicate to the world is social networks like Twitter and Facebook , and because of this we have created monsters, we have created what I like to call "Social Diva's".... These diva's are men and women who talk a big game online and in person they like to throw tantrums when they do not get their way... Alot of these men and women are only "cool" online and nothing more, it is just a facade.... Our society has allowed people to create separate persona's to fool the masses into believing that they are someone different... Truth is there is always someone who knew you in your former life so no matter how much you try cover up your past it is still there, its still exists.... So here is what I think. BE YOURSELF.....how HARD is that? People will either love you or hate you and neither option should make a difference to you. I'm just saying take a look in the mirror and love you for once and not be concerned with what societies pr

You have been hurt, lied to, and felt the pain of a broken heart but that does not mean that you can get back to being the you use to be. You can be happy again if you allow yourself to be happy again... It was said best in "Madea's Family Reunion", "Let's be honest all men come for something.....well some men come to restore..." When you find a man who truly loves you and wants to be the man who loves you and only you he has come to restore you back to the woman you used to be, he has come to restore that smile to your face, he has come to restore the happiness in your life that you use to feel.... It doesn't have to be a man who restores you, it can be something that you can do on your own BUT the key here is that YOU, yes YOU, yourself have to really want it. So go after your happiness restore that feeling you once felt about YOU.... At the end of the day the ONLY thing that matters is your happiness so make sure that you are happy.... Its okay for yo

.....how music can be such an inspiration to people, and well myself also The right song allows me to get in a mood, or capture an idea to write about... Music can inspire poetry, a book, make you tell someone how much you love them, help you break up with someone, even help you cope with pain of any kind.... Its weird to think about but very true there IS a song for almost every situation you can think of or have been in.... Lost a loved one? There is a song about. Loving being single? There is a song about it. Going through every emotion in the book? Yep. You guessed it, there is a song about it... Someone somewhere has gone through what you have gone through and written about it reminding you that you are NOT alone.

...was what the present was then it wouldn't be a what if. So why do we dwell on the "what ifs"? What does "what if"do for us? NOTHING... Don't be afraid to be hurt again for thru pain we learn and grown thru the experience so let go promise you will feel better.... Sometimes as a woman we sit and dwell on what happened in our past with our other lovers. And for what? We cant change it. We cant adjust the past we can only move forward from it... Everything little thing he does bugs you or you think that everything is directed to you. Truth is sometimes it is but mostly its not. See if he is the one who hurt you or broke it off then its rare that his thoughts travel back to you unless he, himself is in denial and knows he should have never let you go. But even in that the reality is that he DID let you go so don't say "what if" say "whats next"... So like Jay-Z says, "I'm on to the next one...." Life is too short to be fi