....A let down? No matter what I do, with certain I always feel like a let down. Like I let them down in some kind of way or another.... I can be too much of a people pleaser at times, and sometimes that does more harm then good I usually end up exhausted or hurt trying to make others happy just to feel like a let down all over again... I need to find a way to shake this feeling, it has me in my feelings sometimes and even second guessing myself even when I know that I am right or when I know that I have done no wrong.... How do I move on from this point? How do I toughen up and stand my ground? How do I adjust my personality to be something that my heart is not use to doing? I am not sure yet BUT what I do know is that I have got to do something because I am over this feeling that I have at times... *Shrugs and creates emotional walls*
Been busy all weekend so I finally got around to getting on my blog and reading up on your latest updates.
ReplyDeleteI came across this question and found it to be very interesting and oh so true!
I think, in my opinion, that we sometimes get 'spoiled' and/or 'too comfortable' by/with those who do good to us and wind up finding it necessary to nitpick at them.
I have done the exact same thing presented in the scenario more than a time or two. And truthfully (and sadly) I find that I did it simply..because I can.
I guess, going back to the 'too comfortable' comment earlier, when we get to that certain level of comfortability with someone (anyone really but of course, the opposite sex in particular) we start to subconsciously get 'bored' (or I suppose 'used to' can also be used in place of bored) with all the good that they do to us. And this boredom clearly leads up to nothing good because at that point we start to seek for the one thing (as you said) that is wrong with the person and when we find it, we dwell on it and make it the biggest deal in the world.
On the other hand, speaking personally from an experience, when it comes to those who treat us wrongly, we don't have time to be bored with them because they are constantly throwing us curve balls which are keeping us on our toes. What happens though, amidst all the bad treatment, is that we constantly wind up giving excuses for their behavior because secretly we are hoping that one day they will "change" and some "good" will come out of them. We stick around (granted, for a lot longer than we should or they deserve) hanging onto that hope.
Well, I've rambled on a while...just wanted to pitch in my two cents! :-)
Hope you had a wonderful weekend!!